For me the first level of foreplay ends when we have started kissing passionately and begun taking our clothes off. So assuming that Level-1 began with a greeting and that we were standing up during the “opening ceremonies” we are now going to move to the bed or couch or some other more comfortable location to begin the next act. Level-2 activities are a much higher intensity and this is where I try to stoke the fires deep within my lady and begin a reaction which I hope will eventually result in bedroom Inferno! This means Level-2 is where I apply my teasing techniques at their highest level.
Note: Teasing is the foundation my Sensual Man stimulation techniques, and I have an entire teasing philosophy of how to apply teasing to build up my partner’s arousal to the highest possible level. If you have not read my page on arousal and teasing then I recommend you do so in order to give the Level-2 descriptions on this page better context.
Foreplay Level-2 will include getting undressed. You could both strip naked before jumping into bed, or gradually undress each other while continuing the playtime.
My preference is for both of us to get down to our underwear to continue playtime because I find ladies look hot in their underwear (even if they are not “sexy” undies), and because it helps to prevent me me from losing my composure and moving too quickly (remember rule-1).
Note: There will likely be an interruption in foreplay activities when moving to the bedroom and/or getting undressed (or possibly pausing to pour some drinks on the way to the bedroom). Any interruption in the foreplay activities can cause a reduction in arousal so my guideline for arousal recovery is to rewind slightly when resuming playtime to recharge the arousal levels. For me, transitioning from Foreplay Level-1 to Level-2 typically means restarting from first kiss.
First Second Kiss:
My second kiss is similar to my first kiss but the difference now is that we are both nearly naked and lying on the bed so I am gazing down at her and my eyes are giving away my excitement. (I sometimes I cannot help grinning like a kid who just opened his Christmas present… but several ladies have commented that they find my boyish enthusiasm a turn-on).
I like to cup my her cheek in my hand and slowly run my fingertips around to lightly massage the back of her head, and stroke her neck. I may plant a few light kisses on her forehead or cheek while I am stroking her face and head (this helps remind me to follow rule-1 slow down… slow down… slow down). I eventually go in for the kiss, and again I start by very lightly brushing my (dry) lips against her lips teasingly, then gradually increase the pressure of my brushing until we are fully kissing. I likely cannot resist engaging a bit of my tongue at this point as I feel the electricity rising. My partner might begin to sigh or moan a little at this point, and I likely cannot resist joining in (because kissing is one of the most erotic experiences for me).
Note: If you haven’t read my page on kissing yet you should do so ASAP, because giving a bad kiss at this stage (like trying to swallow her whole, or ramming your tongue down her throat) will not produce the escalation of arousal that you were hoping for. (LINK)
Adding Hand Play:
Now that we are kissing passionately and the arousal is building I am beginning to slide my hand up and down her back, pulling her in towards me (and probably forcing her to grind on my thigh a little). I apply a firm massaging pressure with my palm and heel of my hand especially as I approach her lower back (arching her body into mine). As I continue to slide my hand over her butt, I press even harder with the heel of my hand as it passes over her cheek and then over the side of her thigh.
Note: Applying massage strokes at the right pressure can send tingles and shivers all through your partner.
I like to kiss with a slow hypnotic rhythm which helps set the pace for my hand caresses, and for the writhing and grinding of our bodies against each other. Foreplay can be a bit like dancing (especially if you have some mood music playing). I do a few rounds with my hands over the back and sides of her body while we continue kissing. (Note: I am intentionally avoiding going near her breasts or crotch just yet as part of my teasing philosophy). Again there is no ideal number of times to run your hands over your partner before moving to the next step… it’s more a matter of going with the flow. But at some point I do need to stop because my own passion is likely about to boil over.
At this point I run my hand up to the back of my partner’s head and hold it firmly while squeezing a few times with my fingertips. Then I pry my lips away from hers and breathe a sigh (I am literally trying to recover my composure). Once I’ve regained my senses a bit I wipe my lips on the back of my hand to get them dry again while smiling mischievously at her (she is probably realizing that more serious teasing is about to start). I might shift her slightly to get her flat on her back, and lie on top of her while cupping her head in both hands.
Then I begin sliding my (dry) lips over her jawline to the sides of her neck, and down onto her shoulder.
Holding her head is very handy because I can hold her hair out of the path of my lips, and also turn her head if necessary to help me access her neck, or behind her ear, or further to the very back of her neck where I might press my teeth slightly.
I might follow a path from the side of her neck up to her ear, then follow the bottom of her jawline over her chin, and back down to the other side. Depending on how she is responding I might slide my (dry) lips towards hers as if I am going to kiss her, but follow her chin at the last instant, or just brush very lightly over her lips (remember this is a teasing game). Eventually I will come back in for a kiss but I’ll tease my way into it.
I might place my hand under the back of her neck and hold it firmly while pressing my fingers gently into the soft muscles at the top of her neck, then place my other hand on top of her head to arch her head back slightly.
Note: Gently forcing her head to arch back might read like a slightly aggressive move but it is actually part of the head massage technique and I have had several ladies describe it as very relaxing and comforting (not scary at all).
Then I very lightly begin brushing my (dry) lips against her lips teasingly, then gradually increase the pressure of my brushing until we are fully kissing again. Each round of kissing will escalate a bit from the previous round including more soft caressing of tongues, more nibbling and sucking on each other’s lips, and definitely lots of firm hand strokes over her body with squeezing, grinding, and moaning. Just a reminder that I still have not touched her breasts or crotch yet as per my teasing philosophy.
I’d like to pause for a moment here to talk a bit more about kissing (since half this page has already been devoted to it). Kissing can be a surreal and all encompassing experience during my encounters. I get literally electrified when kissing and I think a lot of that energy gets returned to my partner. I sometimes get so overwhelmed that I stop and exclaim to my partner “My god are you ever a good kisser”. They often look surprised and say that they were just following me and doing what I was doing. I don’t think there is anything particularly magical about my technique other than that I try to do it as softly as passionately as I can. I think the secret is in the “energy exchange”. I think this energy exchange also gets transferred to my partner to a large extent because at some point it is not unusual for her to be compulsively trying to seek out my mouth to continue kissing often disrupting my attempts to continue foreplay. So to avoid a lot of repetition I won’t mention much more about kissing for the rest of this page. I’m sure you can imagine what I am describing below being interrupted frequently by long, slow, rounds of passionate kissing.
Beginning Chest Play:
We are both about ready to get things moving forward so I eventually peel lips away from hers (again), wipe my lips dry (again), and proceed to explore her body. This time I place both hands under her shoulders and get my torso in between her legs. I begin to run my lips over her neck and shoulders, and then I begin to move down to her chest. I concentrate on tracing my way over the top and middle of her chest occasionally lifting her upwards with my hands to make her arch her back forcing her chest into my lips. I have to slide down a bit to access her chest better so now my belly is pushed up firmly against her crotch where she is usually beginning to grind against me. This is where my “Dad Body” comes in handy because I have a bit of a belly which I can use to push back against her crotch while she is undulating against me.
A variation of this technique is where I slide down even lower and wrap both of my arms tightly around her waist and she raises her knees a bit and maybe even locks her legs around me. This could be described as a “confinement hug” because it pins the woman down and restricts her movement. Some ladies have told me that this unique combination of being both hugged and somewhat confined (because of my arms squeezing them) feels very arousing. It could also be because my forearms are under the small of their back causing them to arch into me and giving my belly even more contract with her crotch for grinding. The “downside” to this position is that my arms are pinned under her and I can barely move my body (except for pushing my belly against her crotch). The “upside” is that my face is in her chest so I can continue exploring with my (dry) lips over her chest area (while still avoiding her breasts).
Note: If you haven’t read my page on teasing yet, I’ll explain a little about why I am avoiding her breasts. Part of my teasing philosophy is to NOT do what she is expecting in order to build up her desire for me to do it. What I mean by that is most men will immediately grab and squeeze a woman’s breasts and even go straight to their breasts with their mouth and tongue. This means she is expecting it, and may even be desensitized or even mentally resistant to breast play to some extent which has a limiting affect on her arousal. This is why I use teasing motions as a fundamental part of my foreplay. I caress her with my hands or lips in the direction of one of her sensitive spots (say breasts or vagina), but then I “miss” that spot and continue elsewhere. This leads her to unconsciously feel surprised that the spot was missed, followed by some disappointment, and then longing for that spot to receive some proper attention. Keep this in mind as you read on…
Belly Needs Attention Too!
In order to continue with my lip service I will need to be able to cover a lot more area… and this is not easy when I am lying on top of her. So for my next step I move to a kneeling position in between her legs with her knees pushed up towards her chest (yes I probably took one or two “kissing breaks” before starting this step). I may run my hands gently up and down her thighs while looking down at her before I get started again (to build the mood and suspense a little). Then I will lean down and start another tour with my (dry) lips starting from her jawline/neck, and tracing my way over her shoulders and into the middle of her chest. As I work my way down I may pause in the center of her chest between her breasts and press very firmly with my lips (you would be surprised how sensitive most areas become when you ignore “traditionally sensitive areas”). Then I continue working my way down to her belly.
Note: You need to be particularly careful to apply the right amount of pressure when stroking her belly because she may be ticklish (at least on the initial touches), so more pressure is recommended here. Also note that in this day of online fat shaming some women are still overly self conscious of their belly area. If you detect your lady becoming shy and reluctant to let you touch her here, try to be reassuring… but if it is still making her uncomfortable then move on (you can gradually make her more at ease in future encounters).
I like to put my hands around my partner’s hips or under her bum so I can grip and squeeze while running my (dry) lips over her belly. I try to pay careful attention to how she is responding to this area so if she is not being ticklish then I might trace my way down the edge of her ribcage and over her hip bones actually taking firm nips on her hip bones (with just my lips). I might also make sweeping arcs with my (dry) lips over her belly area pausing on the bottom side of her belly button and take a large mouthful of her belly into my mouth and bite gently on it (this feels really good for your partner if she is relaxed and not self conscious that you are thinking she has a fat belly).
While I shouldn’t be doing this yet, I might actually continue downwards. But first I will put her into another “confinement hug” by pushing my shoulders up against her butt cheeks/thighs while grabbing her hips firmly with my hands to hold her in place against my shoulders. Again ladies have reported to me that this embrace feels very arousing. I think subconsciously they might be thinking that this embrace will result in their pussy getting some attention because my face is also pressed into their lower belly. But if I am feeling both naughty and disciplined then my next exploration will “only” go as close as her pubic mound.
(Just a quick reminder that the pubic mound is the fleshy area over your woman’s pubic bone… actually above her vagina).
This erogenous area on a woman does not get nearly as much recognition as it should nor as much credit for being able to stimulate and arouse women. So let’s spend some time exploring it now and see hour your partner likes it. I run my (dry) lips firmly over her lower belly working my way into her pubic mound. I stop on the mound and begin planting kisses over the top of her mound gradually kissing with more and more pressure. Sometimes I will stop and just squeeze my lips firmly into her pubic mound, while other times I will trace kisses around her mound. I will also alternate these moves with soft sweeping motions of my (dry) lips over her lower belly and work the sweeps back down into her pubic mound where I again begin applying more pressure. I will also use my teeth at this point to bite and chew on her mound with light to medium pressure.
Most women will unconsciously begin to undulate their hips and moan a little which should be a hint that this is working. My partner might not be saying it, but her brain is probably screaming at me to GO DOWN!!! but I don’t because that’s what teasing is all about. If I really want to be naughty I might move down just a bit and brush my lips gently over my partner’s vulva through her panties.
Don’t Forget Her Thighs!
Well since I am already in the neighbourhood I might as well pay a visit to her inner thighs! After I’ve made a few trips around her pubic mound and maybe said hello to her vulva, I might want to spread her legs a bit wider and begin making trips across her inner thighs with my (dry) lips. The thick bit of muscle and tendon that connects the inner thigh to her groin area can be an especially sensitive area to play around. Running my (dry) lips down her inner thigh, lightly over her vulva, firmly over her pubic mound, and back up her other inner thigh should begin making my partner absolutely crazy.
I might wrap this up by pausing for a reverse pussy hug (heel of my hand towards her bum, and fingertips pressing into her pubic mound). Or I might make a few more sweeps across her pubic mound, and inner thighs but this time surprise her by going a bit lower and firmly biting one (or both) of her butt cheeks. Or, I might even (finally) begin introducing my tongue to the game and add some licks and bites to her inner thighs and butt cheeks. Yes the message I am conveying is that this game is about to get (much) more serious.
Note: I thought I would end Level-2 with a brief explanation of why I have not taken her panties off yet. There are actually 2 reasons. The first is that her underwear makes a smoother surface to run my lips, fingers, and hands over than her bare skin. Basically skin on skin contact is only smooth when the skin is fully dry. Any dampness at all and skin “drags” across other skin (a bit like rubber) which does not feel as nice. The second reason is that keeping her panties on helps me to maintain control and not rush into any Level-3 activities too soon (remember rule-1… slow, slow, slow).
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