With all the descriptions I have provided of painting techniques and painting locations it might be a little confusing for you to figure out how to put them to use for practical purposes. So I thought it might be helpful to provide a descriptive example of techniques which transition from foreplay, to oral sex, and through to orgasm. I have tried to be as descriptive as possible while not violating the content rules of my web-host regarding visual displays of nudity. My intent is to educate and enlighten rather than provide erotica.
Overview
The woman you see in this image is placed in an ideal position to receive oral sex. She is lying comfortably on her back with her legs spread loosely but relaxed. She should be comfortable in this position for a long period of time. I will likely be working here for a very long time so in order to position myself to work comfortably and to have good access to much of her lower body I have her positioned with her bum right on the edge of the bed while I kneel in front of her (usually on a pillow for better comfort). While I might be able to work on her if she is in the middle of the bed, I find that I get horrible neck pains from tilting my head back even a few minutes at that angle (it’s an age thing I guess).
Notice that her feet/legs are not supported by the bed. Depending on the size/shape of the woman her legs may become tired if she has to support them hanging in the air so she is holding them with her hands. It may help if she brings her knees up more towards her chest so that she doesn’t need to use her leg muscles as much to support them. I might also put a pillow under her bum to help tilt her legs upwards more which has the added benefit of exposing more of her crotch area for painting activities. Or she might find it more comfortable to put her feet on my shoulders and sometimes drape her legs over my back as we play. It is sometimes good to also put a pillow under her head which will allow her to make eye contact with me and watch me work (which can also add to the excitement).
This oral sex “story” is not starting really from the beginning, so to get to this “chapter” I have already completed foreplay levels 0, 1, and 2, and I am nearly at the end of level 3. If you have not already read through these pages I recommend doing so before continuing so that what I am describing makes more sense. But I’m going to repeat some of what is on my level-3 page here anyway.
Once I have positioned my partner on the edge of the bed and made her comfortable, I push her knees up higher, and gently open her legs wider, then straddle her (intercourse position) allowing my penis to very lightly rest on her clitoral hood. Then I take her head in my hands and start to kiss her very slowly and sensually while gently pressing my penis against her clitoral hood in rhythm to our kissing.
As I kiss and caress my partner our passion will build again and eventually it will be time for me to move downwards again. I start by sliding down just enough so that my penis stops touching her clitoral hood and replace this with the “erotic pressure of my Dad belly” against her vulva. Then I slowly begin to work my way down her body, first running my dry lips in a soft AH shape over the side of her neck and around the center of her chest teasing my way around her breasts and finally taking a nipple into my mouth and swirling my tongue over it.
I pause here at her chest for a while and use my fingers and hands to alternate between tracing light sweeping arcs around her breasts and giving them firm squeezes. Meanwhile my dry lips are also gliding over her skin in an AH shape occasionally going in for a flutter, a suck/swirl, or a nip.
Then I continue on my way down kissing and gliding my dry lips in an AH shape down the center of her chest into her belly area tracing curves over her skin. I like to pause briefly just below her navel and suck the skin into my mouth then bite gently on it while fluttering my tongue over it then release it with an OM motion.
I might wipe my lips on the back of my hand to get them dry again, then continue my path down her belly towards her pussy. I use a firmer pressure with my lips in this area because many women are ticklish here so the firmer pressure is more comfortable to them. As I continue downward her mind is telling her that my mouth is (finally) going to make contact with her “happy spot”, but I am not finished teasing yet. When my lips reach the top of her pubic mound I pause just above her clitoral hood to apply a more firm pressure by forming my lips into an OH shape. The pubic mound can be a very sensitive area on a soman but it requires a firm massaging contact for best stimulation.
When I press my OH shaped lips into her pubic mound I often begin to rock my head slightly to create a massaging sensation, and for bonus points I may slide my arms under her thighs and then around her so that my forearms are over her belly and hug her while I do this. As I release from the hug I may slide my hands firmly over her belly while continuing to rock my head, then make an arc of firm kisses over the top of her pubic mound before pausing again.
Hmmmm what next? Ok, I lift my head up briefly to make eye contact with her then slowly lower my head towards her inner thigh aiming for about half way down to her knee. The large tendon that connects her thigh to her groin provides a perfect path for my lips to follow. I go in and make initial contact using a very soft AH mouth shape then lightly glide my dry lips up her thigh towards her pussy. Her mind is thinking “happy spot at last”, but instead of arriving at her clitoris I follow a path that takes me over the top of her pubic mound (very lightly) then continuing to her other thigh until I am about half way to her other knee. Yes, I am still teasing. I make eye contact with my partner again and maybe smile a little as I resume another glide back down towards her pussy again.
This time when I reach her pubic mound I begin kissing more firmly using an OH shape and taking OM/NIPs as I move across the top of her pubic mound, then glide my lips back up the other side.
I try not be too predictable or repetitive with my moves so I am going with the flow more than following a scripted technique. Depending on how the painting session is going I also mix different motions/techniques together.
For example, on the next pass down her inner thigh I might start out with an AH shape, but then begin softly but deliberately make light dragging contact with my teeth, or gently biting into her thigh or OM/NIPPING with my lips as I work my way towards her pussy.
When it is time to go to the next level I spend more time near her pussy, and begin kissing my way up and down in the crease between her outer labia and thigh. I may use my lips in a soft AH shape on the way down, then glide my tongue on the way back up. Once I have begun using my tongue, my lips will no longer be able to slide over her skin without dragging, so I mostly use my tongue now.
I glide my tongue up the crease between her outer labia and thigh, then cross over the top of her pubic mound gently biting into the skin and swirling my tongue over it then pressing my lips together into an OM then NIP as I release her skin. When I get to the other crease I switch back to my tongue again.
I do this a few times with gradually increasing intensity changing my motion from licking, to gliding, to slithering while gradually beginning to include her outer labia when making contact.
By now her entire pussy is wet from my licking, but I still have not yet touched her inner labia or clitoral hood. I pause again and lift my head up to make eye contact with her then give her a naughty smile and blow gently across her pussy (hopefully making her shiver or moan). If she hasn’t screamed at me to eat her pussy by now she is certainly thinking it and hopefully I can see some of this in her eyes now. I might even smile and ask her, “ready”? (Note: it is literally moments like these that make giving oral sex so much pleasure for me)
Contact at Last!
Roadmap: I’m just going to drop this anatomical drawing here with all the good bits clearly labelled in case you need a reference for the descriptions which follow…
I make sure my tongue is good and wet and then slowly lower my head back down to her pussy while holding eye contact. I place the tip of my tongue gently into the middle of her inner labia, then slowly glide my tongue up from the bottom to her clitoral hood which 99% of the time elicits some moans of relief (as in finally he is getting to work). I run my tongue up and down her inner labia a few times tasting her juices and seeing her response. She will probably be arching her back and grinding a bit now and usually moaning.
Note: The diagram above shows the inner labia spread apart, but most of the time they are closed so you will be inserting your tongue in between the labia folds.
Let’s go exploring
If I’m still in a teasing mood I might switch from gliding my tongue up and down her labia to rapidly flicking at the edges of her outer labia just barely making contact (tickling).
Or I might gently glide or wiggle my tongue over the outer edges of her inner labia. Note that on most ladies the inner labia is nearly as sensitive as the clitoris (when touched lightly) and can even produce orgasms.
Or I might slither my tongue from side to side as I’m gliding up and down the crevice of her inner labia. When I get to the top (clitoral hood) I swirl some circles around it and gently suck on it.
Or I might gently put my whole mouth around her clitoral hood in and AH shape and flutter my tongue lightly over it in loops, spirals, or any other pattern that feels good for both of us. Some light suction will help to puff up her clitoral hood and her clit which also increases her arousal and sensitivity.
Note: On many ladies the clitoris is always covered by the clitoral hood (not visible or exposed). This is fine because for most ladies the clitoris is too sensitive for direct contact. So I always treat her entire clitoral hood as her clitoris which allows me to make firmer contact.
Don’t forget to use your hands
There are many ways for your hands to participate to assist the sensations your mouth is providing. The most obvious is to squeeze her breasts with one or both hands. I like to keep my hand contact in tune with my mouth contact. If my mouth is touching softly then I will lightly stroke my fingers in arcs and circles around my partner’s breasts, or run them lightly over her nipples. If my mouth is contacting more firmly then I will hold her breasts firmly in my hands and squeeze them to the rhythm of my mouth contact.
I like to repeat some of the same hand motions that I make during foreplay such as placing my hand flat on the center of her chest between her breasts. Then slowly but firmly slide it down to the edge of her ribs, then circle around the outside of her breasts and trace curves around her breast until I am cupping it firmly in my hand for another squeeze. I synchronize my mouth activity with this move by starting out with light contact and gradually increasing the pressure or intensity as my hand eventually cups and squeezes her breasts. (Think of it like a dance)
But hey, I’ve already been giving her breasts a lot of attention, so where else can my hands go? Ok, I start with my hand flat on the center of her chest and begin sliding it downwards. This time I keep going downwards and as I reach her belly I start firmly sliding my hand in curves over her belly as I continue downwards. Note that I try to use a firm pressure on her belly to avoid accidentally tickling her.
As my hand continues downwards it comes to her pubic mound (just above my mouth). I cup her pubic mound in my hand and begin squeezing and massaging it to match the rhythm and pressure of my mouth. Depending on how she is responding and what patterns I am following with my mouth, I may alternate between cupping/squeezing her pubic mound, and pressing my fingertips into her pubic mound to massage it.
When touching her pubic mound you can also expose her clitoris by pressing your fingertips into her mound just above her clitoral hood then gently pushing the soft puffy skin upwards towards her navel (belly button). Depending on how sensitive your partner is you will want to make very light and gentle contact with her exposed clitoris, and watch her reaction to see if she is squirming in pleasure, or trying to squirm away from your excessive contact because her clitoris is hyper-sensitive.
Note that the hand motions I just described were using only 1 hand, so what do you do with the other hand? Well you can mix it up with one hand tracing/cupping/squeezing a breast while the other hand is gliding over her belly, or massaging her pubic mound. Remember to have both hands moving softly or firmly to match the activities of your mouth. Getting both hands and your mouth working together can be a multi-tasking challenge, but practice makes perfect!
Catching the wave
I like to think of the dance pattern I make with my hands and mouth a bit like a wave approaching the shore to crash on the beach. My hands and mouth move in unison making a gentle movement which gradually becomes firmer and more intense until it comes to a peak causing a wave which “crashes on the beach” (possibly giving my partner her orgasm). If the peak does not result in an orgasm then your partner is not ready yet, and that’s fine because you are patient and willing to provide many more waves for your partner to “surf” on. So after providing a peak for a few seconds (or minutes) you can ease off and gradually build up another wave for her to ride on. This is a form of edging and if you keep repeating these waves you can bring your partner to a much higher state of arousal than if you had simply tried to push her into orgasm on the first wave. Doesn’t that sound like fun?
Now where were we? Oh yeah, hands! Besides using your hands to help stimulate your partner they are also useful to help support her while you are performing your oral artwork. If I notice that my partner has been holding her legs up in the air without support for a while and I think they are getting tired then I might put my hands on her thighs and push her knees up towards her chest. Holding her legs in this position also has the benefit of tilting her hips back and exposing more of her bum cheeks which I can then use my mouth on. [IMAGE hands pushing thighs up]
I could also lay one of my fore-arms across both her thighs so that the weight of my arm holds her legs in place taking the load off her leg muscles. Note that when your partner has her knees pulled up more towards her chest, the weight of her legs tends to help hold them in place so putting a pillow under her bum will help tilt her more into that position. If I don’t have a pillow handy then sometimes I slide one of my fore-arms under her bum which tilts her hips up, holding her legs in place, and exposes more of her bum to my mouth (yum).
Let’s talk about the clitoris for a minute
Most people think of the clitoris is the “magic button” that is going to give a woman her orgasm. While this is mostly true, I think this causes men to put too much focus on the clitoris resulting in them neglecting the nearby areas that also give women a lot of pleasure. Often men give too much attention to the clitoris too early, preventing a sufficient buildup before the orgasm. This is why I keep stressing to pay attention to all the sensitive areas around her vagina in addition to her clitoris.
Are We There Yet?
By now you may be wondering how long you should keep this up, or using my wave analogy, how many wave rides should you give your partner before you bring her to orgasm? Well, the answer is that it depends. I’d say that the shortest time I would typically spend is 15 minutes, and the longest time has been up to 45 minutes. I usually get so lost in the moment that I lose track of time, and I really don’t pay much attention to how many times I’ve built up a wave of sensations for my lady. If I am just going with the flow then she might simply be pushed over the edge into orgasm on any one of the sensation waves I provide.
But If I am teasing and edging my partner then I am easing off on the stimulation if I sense her approaching orgasm, so it could be that I am the reason she hasn’t orgasmed sooner. If I am playing edging games then I also have to be sure to avoid any misunderstandings or mistakes like accidentally easing off just as she is going into orgasm (she definitely would not be thanking me for that). So I have a basic communication rule that I follow to avoid “edging accidents”. The rule I use is that if she says “I’m going to cum”, then it is probably ok for me to ease off my stimulation. But if she says “I’m cumming” then regardless of where I thought we should be in the game, I will keep going and help her to have the best possible orgasm I can give her.
A woman’s orgasm may only last a few seconds, (or hopefully longer). But just like the foreplay, and sex that lead to her orgasm, it is also a journey that you need to attend to carefully. There are some special techniques you may need to use for her orgasm which are different from the techniques you used to bring her to orgasm.
I have dedicated an entire page to this topic so please read on.
If you think any of my information is incorrect, or can be improved please do contact me. My sensual journey is far from over and I am always looking to learn new things, or improve/correct things I thought I knew.